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[Updating has begun. V. 07-12-2019]
[Women are not treated well worldwide. Many men do want to change this.] Originally this page was created privately for sharing with Psychotherapy Networker Symposium acquaintances. Contents were re-purposed from a page that I created for the Chief Chaplain of the U.S. Air Force, USAF Academy Commandant, Superindendent and Chaplain.

The video below is General David Petraeus speaking to encourage ROTC cadets but he also acknowledges that his actions with a woman not his wife destroyed his career at CIA. He takes consequences. Men and Women who read this: Watch him give honor to military and veterans, and very clearly takes responsibility for inappropriate attention to a woman he was not married to. The current Cosby events are proof that things are getting more respectful but a lot more needs to be done.
General Petraeus Accepts Responsibility. The video below is a testimony to accepting responsibility for wrongdoing. [I found it on CSPAN in 2013 as I recall. You can find it there as his talk to the USC Trojans in an address about ROTC for national safety] General Petraeus spends the bulk of his presentation giving supportive words to the work of ROTC educators. He paid a price for inappropriate sexual actions. Nobody is above censure for such things. I agree with men and women who are currently seeking major jail time and loss of career for violators of women's bodies and those who destroy their safety.
I've had some deeply meaningful conversations at Psychotherapy Networker Symposium 2016 here in Washington DC. After you see the personal comments below to active military and veterans, you can visit the page Wisdom Day 2016 in this site.

I look forward to making time to hear your story and how we may benefit this nation and deepen our positive presence in the world.

Ralph Wood Wilson
AKA: "Woody", Kitemaster, Routefinder
Washington DC and Hawai'i
Psychology Today Therapist Directory listing [link]

Addendum: A page of photos during my recall of flashbacks after military service -- click here.

For Chaplains and Leadership: [redacted]
This new USAFA page is an unlisted tab; bookmark it to return easily. It's intended for "private" access and not accessible for search engines. It is for Academy leadership and others who may gain from the information that I share here now that I have reclaimed my public status as a former officer in the armed forces of the United States. I am now officially a member of Military Officers Association of America (www.MOAA.org). 

Directorate for Climate, Culture and Diversity at USAF Academy: They now are ordered to be appropriate with women; which means equality. (Page on Academy site.)

USAF Academy Chaplains to be addressed by USAF Chief of Chaplains -- February 23, 2016, the National Day of Prayer. (Click to view full size poster) The event at the Academy includes Ministry Fair prior to the 11:30 event. I am considering mailing a physical poster that could be displayed that includes my story. [I sent this via PDF]

NOTE TO SELF: Include below warning about the VA being research oriented and that the research is limited to failures and defeats and how much those affect the veteran...NOT to building and celebrating Resilience, Vision, Creativity, Dynamic Social Leadership. That policy causes the VA to focus on negativity as well as putting their attention only on making sure that the veteran is not a danger to themselves or to society. That means that they do not equip the veteran with healthy resources that are neutral -- only a power struggle exists between economic interests and religious rivalries. The VA is "dumbed down" on purpose. I am deeply experienced with the new Integrative Health and Wellness program for mind and body -- they are constrained to deal with restrictions on what they can tell to the veterans. (I may be able to make this paragraph be more positive and more documented about the subtle censorship I detected in my many visits there.)

Most recent service begun: Candidate 2016 -- DC Advocacy Partners.

 I have been accepted into their nine-month program for advocacy training to help people with disabilities, -- www.DCPartners.iel.org.

Below* is a video with me speaking in wintertime thinking of USAFA and outdoors experiences.
Below that is the video of me [Burton Goldberg's picture is there because his assistance helped me put on an event in 1989] speaking as spokesperson for Routefinders presentng Wisdom Day 2016 as a way to celebrate mental health and things that we can do as individuals and as consumers of health services by western and Complementary and Alternative Medicine specialists.

My claim of allegiance is to the entire nation, not to one branch of service. Because I had intimately risked my life during the Cold War and the Vietnam War while undergoing leadership training and practice while a Cadet at the U.S. Air Force Academy -- with U.S. Army, Navy SEALS and Air Force Prisoner-of-War realistic experience. I have stated that "I'm one third Army, one third Navy, one third Air Force and All Human." I don't buy into dismissive inter-service rivalry or disrespect.

I offer Coherence Therapy-informed listening as well as No-Secrets-Revealed Psychotherapy sessions and body psychotherapy services.

I've taken training from Peter Levine who is now behind the Somatic Experiencing trainings for bodyworkers, acupuncturists and others. 
Expanded Veterans Project flyer from 2014: Click here, PDF

See video: Wisdom Day 2015

PTSD and deeply embedded trauma:
Note: Dr. Van Der Kolk emphasizes that trauma treatment benefits women and children too. 

In interviews he said that for every one veteran, there are nine women who have been traumatized and that the treatments that work for military veterans also can be part of the help that benefits women and children.

1. Interview by David Van Nuys, Ph.D., on ShrinkRapRadio.com  |  2. Interview by Krista Tippett on OnBeing.org.


The book, The Body Keeps the Score, is written about trauma veterans (whether civilian or military trauma, I call survivors Veterans of Trauma). The author is a psychiatrist who now has changed his mind and is respectful of anyone who has been traumatized and he says that he no longer "admonishes" people, or push them. He respects their process as he works with them to give them control over their life.

This video is recently compiled at the Washington National Cathedral -- an unexpectedly clear look at what Sacrifice means to those who have sacrificed in many ways:


Below are some video images taken during the Concert for Valor honoring veterans of all eras. We saw active military and veterans and families. It was not all smiles. The helicopter overhead in this instance was a sign of friendly presence, much different than some veterans used to associate with the sound. Concert for Valor site.

Routefinders has contacted the Washington National Cathedral [site] because they invite and welcome people of "all faiths and none" to walk their intricate grounds and hallways because the Cathedral has recently been declared the nation's home for spiritual support.


[Below is from the Routefinders site earlier template:]
I'm a veteran and I am in support of all veterans and their families, as well as their communities. Additions are planned for this page. [See also my republished teaching blog: Flickerbacks for Veterans of All Kinds.] 


Gold Star Wives national organization.


Our Nation Is Still At War -- I found motivation in this now-classic film.
I watched it five times in a theater, then purchased DVD and have watched it five more times.
Superb film excerpt showing men and boys motivated to do the wartime work...in another century. Today's uniformed service is much different, but Family, Friends and Community can still be central in the minds and hearts of those who join.
Master and Commander: The Far Side of the World.  With Russell Crowe and Ralph Bellamy.
Treating veterans is an important challenge after they are welcomed home.


Routefinders information [more on this site menu] Moving ahead in your journey of life.
The Cloth Survival Map led me to design a Routefinders map for promoting civilian survival.


New: For the entire family -- Integrated Listening Systems (iLs) sound and movement therapy system, iLs Home Rental Program. This is now known to give positive results for trauma rehab as well as general boost for test-taking, memory, coordination. See my clinical site's Integrative Listening Systems page for more information. Here is the link to the latest flyer on economic access to this equipment which can be used by the whole family: iLs Home Rental Program [PDF]

Patrol on Duty watching the people visiting the wall in memory of those whose names are there and others...
Nurse of the heart...Other nurse scans for the Evac.

Addition: If your Circle of Care includes only professionals who practice with the model known as "Cognitive Behavioral Therapy" (CBT),please read the following.

CBT is designed to meet very basic, "grunt-level" tasks of "getting the job done." My intent is for you to eventually take command of your own life and exercise your inner "Dynamis" or Creative aspect. CBT's historical usefulness is respected but is not included in the approaches that I and others in the Coherence Therapy network recommend. 

For more, consult the Coherence Psychology Institute (

On my clinical site, read about Coherence Therapy and options for "building a better brain": 
link to page.


Here is the link to an interview by psychologist David Van Nuys, of CT co-developer Bruce Ecker --

Coherence Therapy: Unlocking the Emotional Brain --


Interview by psychologist and educator David Van Nuys, Ph.D. about recent "Developments in Neuropsychotherapy", with Dr. Laurence Heller.[link to interview page]. That podcast (ShrinkRapRadio.com) includes the reading of my "letter to the editor" about my support of his new position as official broadcaster on Armed Forces Radio Network.


 Recently participated in a workshop titled, Healing the Wounds of War. [site:TraumaHealing.com]

Below: a video introduction to the Trauma treatment insights that flow from the Polyvagal Theory of autonomic nervous system structure research of Stephen Porges, Ph.D.:.  [my correlations of his work with other insights on my Information Site]. 

Download transcript of full interview at NICABM - pdf

Next is this link to a longer interview by psychologist David Van Nuys, Ph.D. with Stephen Porges, Ph.D.
[Click here to go to page to hear/download MP3 interview]


Addendum: General Petraeus Accepts Responsibility. The video below is a testimony to accepting responsibility for wrongdoing. In addition, General Petraeus spends the bulk of his presentation giving supportive words to the work of ROTC educators. He paid price for inappropriate sexual nature actions. Nobody is above censure for such things. I agree with men and women who are currently seeking major jail time and loss of career for violators of women's bodies and those who destroy their safety.
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